Once I met with my medium (Wendy D’Angelo) and during this session my first orange tabby cat named Early came through to speak to me. Early said, “Marlo, I have always loved you because you are so open and have vulnerability. These traits are your light and everyone is attracted to you because of them. However, you need to work on discipline and boundaries.” Almost every time I meet with her a pet comes through to speak to me. I love this! They are here on Earth for big reasons beyond what we typically think.
So an example of discipline and boundaries that are rooted in self-love is an issue that I was working with recently. I have a new friend who I encountered one day as I was walking to the mailbox. I greeted him as I would anybody because he’s a child of God with the spark of creation inside. I want to greet everyone because we are all One and not separate. He was very friendly and articulate. As we were talking, I started to realize that he is living a difficult life. His skin was leathery and dark. His hair and clothing looked dirty. He said he has been homeless. He is very intelligent and he has communication skills and also has had some unique life experience. He was part of a very famous skateboard crew in LA back in the day. He’s indigenous and has been involved in protests and rallies for human rights. As I continued to speak to him, I felt moved to offer to take him home as he was walking and it was hot. This gentleman explained to me as I was giving him a ride home (a house that someone was letting him temporarily live at) that he owns a BMW M5 that he is working on which is not running currently. Many homeless people have a shopping cart full of things. This guy has a BMW M5 full of things. As I was telling a friend this story, she asked me why a homeless person needs a BMW. I explained that many homeless gather things to show their worth and that ownership gives a false sense of this worth. I explained to my friend who lives in one of the poshest neighborhoods in the city that is full of retired CEOs and athletes and celebrities, that many people in her neighborhood and nearby also drive cars to show others how important they are. Many people no matter the demographic, use their things to show their worth rather than us knowing our Divine worth.
Fast forward 2 months later and one evening after went to bed, my dogs go off and are barking incessantly. I make it downstairs and look out the peep hole and there is a person standing there. So I opened the door to ask how I can help them. It was the same person that I had helped by giving a ride home that day. He goes into a lengthy description of what has happened. The neighbor around the corner was allowing him to work on his car in his driveway because he helped him with his car. However, the neighbor’s patience ran out very quickly. The neighbor threatened him with calling the police. This person with the car admitted to having addiction issues and trouble with the Law in the past. As We Know, addiction can lead to crime. This gentleman appears to be honest and clean/sober as I observed him. We talked briefly but openly about his issues. The police are the last thing he wants to encounter. When he finally explained that he needs me to help him push his car to a safe place and asked if he could park it at my house, I had to really think about what was going on. He said he wouldn’t have asked me but I happened to be someone nearby that he knew. I chose to help him. He did not mention that he was living in his car. He proceeded to work on his car and live in it for almost a week. I have to admit I was losing some patience. I had to tell him that living in his car on the street in front of my house is going to have a short life span. Neighbors have spoken to me and asked about him and have some fear unfortunately. He’s harmless, but I may feel the same way if I didn’t know him. He finally got the damned car running by fixing the fuel pump with some baking soda I gave him. He has some tangible skills of turning a wrench, running construction equipment and apparently being McGyver. Who knows what that cat could do with a rubber band, paper clip and apparently baking soda. I soon heard his car barely and with difficulty turn over and start. I then watched him putt away down the road.
I told him that my job is not to change him and make him into what I think is a success and good citizen of this world. That would be very ego-driven. I can assist him to achieve his goals. I said to him,
“How do I know that you weren’t a king in the last life and an you may need to learn humility or some other related purpose. He as we all are are, in exactly the place we’re supposed to be to learn the things we’re supposed to learn and become more like Christ.
So I realize that he is here for me just as much as I am here for him and I told him this. This long story is about boundaries. I am here to learn proper boundaries right now. how much do I give him and what do I allow. I explained to him that I want to allow everyone to be in their choice. Everyone has what they’re supposed to and is in the exact situation they are in because of their choices. If we can dream it we can do it or have it. So I’m not here to change him. I am here to assist and support him. A Bible verse came to mind this morning and it was the one that Jesus said. If you are to do this to the least of them, you are doing that to me. This human is no different than your favorite person or a hero. He is no better or no worse then you. God loves him every bit as much as me and you. So I decided that it’s best not to allow him inside my home, however I liked bringing him sustenance such as water, fruit, some meat I grilled, Etc. I had conversations with him about what he would like to see in his life and where he wants to be in the next few months. He said he has a plan and said he has a job that he can get to when his car is fixed and a place to live when this happens. Boundaries … it’s what I’m working on fiercely.
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