My friend asked a question recently … what do we need? This made me think about such a simple question. I have asked this to myself before, but it is so relevant and deep, it can be asked often. It’s on the level of .. who am I? To some degree we all change so our needs change to assist us on our Journey which makes sense to me. We may not need the stuff or prestige or money or authority to be happy. In fact, those things cannot make you happy.
Can having what we want be part of what we need? This sounds very scandalous. It reminds me of a toddler stomping his feet or refusing to get up off the ground. Is is okay for our needs to include having what you want? It really isn’t as “selfish” as the average person educated by our culture would call it. We have been shaped and controlled since our childhood to believe what we are told. We are a good boy if we do what daddy says, but if you don’t then you will be punished. Why wouldn’t we believe that selfish means doing what we choose what is pleasing to us and having what we want. And according to our culture, not being selfish is attending to others needs first and if you have any time left then you can do something you want to, but with guilt. Again, so many people confuse selfish for doing things the way you want to do them, when really selfish is someone else telling you how you are supposed to do them.
I think it is totally legit for us to have what we want, the way we want it and enjoy those things we receive as one of our needs in life. We are to be excited and playful and curious on our adventure of life! We can curate the perfect life based on our tastes which includes our desires. Why would we live in this world, living this life and do it in misery? Yet, some choose this misery as their happy place. I know someone who has become more and more miserable as those ways and attitudes prohibit him from forgiveness. We are here to have Joy. One of everyone’s purposes is to enjoy the ride. I must have more fun now doing more of what I want to. Which reminds me of an old Absolutely Fabulous episode where that was the lead character’s new years resolution. https://youtu.be/-itpSwRrcMw
What do we need? Many people think they need all kinds of things to make them happy or feel whole. What we actually need is only our relationship with ourselves which is also our relationship to our Creator. It is Union and not separation that we chose to believe like the story of Adam and Eve. We know the Creator is in all of us as our “Soul”. It is our True Self. It is who we really are and all we are. Our small self is our man-made self. It is the result of the evolution of our species and our own Karma from each lifetime we have lived. When I say Karma, I don’t mean punishment. Karma is the natural fall out from every action. The good that comes from kindness and the hole that keeps getting deeper from fear … that is Karma. That is all about our Path and why we strive to chip away at the small self to reveal the immaculate sculpture of Perfection that is hidden in the rock.
So my answer was and is … all I need is union with God. This is the only thing that quenches the thirst of our existence. It is always there and available for us to have. It is our natural state … our original state. In fact, we always have Union, we just are convinced we don’t. All that I want and need comes from my connection with our Creator. All goodness flows in ways we cannot even imagine yet from us having the high vibrations of Love when we are in Union. Reminds me of how Ted Lasso operates.
I am learning to understand some of my primal needs. It seems we all have to do some work on past trauma of whatever kind. Childhood bullying, poor parenting, displaced or orphaned … maybe it is an action to be taken now based on past life trauma. This is why breaking cycles is so important now. When we can break a cycle of self-destruction, we are helping ourselves and others in ways we also cannot comprehend. This actually extends to other soul family working on their purposes and addictions. This is information given to me directly via my medium and in my readings and listenings.
We all have different needs based on what we have endured that we are working on. We all have different purposes here because we are all beyond unique, so wouldn’t we have a need for different tools to help us accomplish those purposes.
This makes me ask .. what are the things in life I am here to work on. This has many answers as I come across obstacles and unexpected change daily. I am here to learn from these obstacles. I am also here to claim that I am actually brand new right now and I am adopting any baggage I decide to take on. I want to remember that. I must be in the present moment … not my history … remembering who I really am and calling bullshit on what I have been taught and told and convinced of. What will help me accomplish my adventure? Food and water and tools for unexpected obstacles … good shelter and rest … these are good things to want and need. We can all use help and the right tools can change the game. What are my tools I can use to help me keep a Christ level vibration? Affirmations/chanting/song, reading and listening to books that teach me about this, being around others with a high vibration are some of my tools. Do you have any that are helpful for you?
So, there are many things I need. Essentially, I need to stay conscious to the Truth that I am always in Union and loved. I can also listen to my inner voice and ask for a tool when an opportunity emerges. I can be aware of the contrast we encounter in life and ask for something better. I need to stay present as much as I can and with practice, it becomes easier and you become a master. I guess my needs and wants change. We must always listen to our uniqueness and give to ourselves generously so we can truly love ourselves by honoring what we want and need.
What do you want? What do you think about our wants and our needs? Always wanting to hear other thoughtful perspectives. Thank you.
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