As a “Heartbroken Warrior”, are you always broken hearted? Are you usually sad or meek?
This is a great question. I think people that know me personally know that I have my days like most, but I am a generally happy person. I do take my purposes here on Earth a bit too seriously and I am working on that. One of everyone’s true purposes here in this existence is to be joyful and happy. These are the highest vibrations anyone can have – Joy/Appreciation/Empowerment/Freedom. Essentially, this defines Love.
The time for heartbreak is only when your heart is broken. We are to be able to hold space with understanding and love for ourselves and our brothers and sisters here when their spirits are crushed. It is okay to be heartbroken and feel that. There is an art to having a broken heart and the holistic process of moving from broken to mended. We are to be a friend and companion to the heartbreak and to everyone, including ourselves, that endure that pain. You must honor, understand, empathize and validate that pain that hurts so much, but we must also do so with our capacity to move through and past it. We can move beyond the hurt. We are not that emotion. That emotion is just a tool to guide us through the storm.
So many of us know the answers, but that knowing must take a long journey via the pathway to the heart. Our brain recognizes the answers at times. We have epiphanies, but the true answers lie in the experience. Those that feel and undergo such a roller-coaster in this lifespan of emotions and during the difficult experience always have a gift when they overcome with acknowledgement and Love. We gain the strength we will need for the future fight. The experience is preparing us for the upcoming triumph and trophy. Those that endure the spine chilling situations and unexpected emotions that we all eventually face and those with the extreme life experience of battle have a very interesting life. It is why we watch movies with such drama. We don’t watch movies where nothing hard happens … that would be so boring to the viewer! Who would watch a movie where everything goes right and there is no questionable scenarios?
Can we be the observer of our life? Can we stand outside of the drama and pain, view it and then make steps after the dust settles when we can see the situation or emotion clearly? This is important because it is so hard to understand a situation or negative emotion, especially when we are in the midst of it. We have a tendency to jump in head first immediately and get involved with the drama. It is almost fun. It is our ego or small self that wants to be entertained. The ego or small self’s most enjoyable moments and when it shines are when we are in pain and are suffering. It loves to be separate from Love. It shows that we don’t actually need help or Love. That is when the small self is in the moment. The ego has a present moment in your hurting. However, we can be the observer while the difficult and painful situation is happening. Similar to watching a movie, we can be patient and watch or even laugh at that long moment that is eventually fleeting. It is an appropriate moment and opportunity to conquer that horrible beast. That is when we can be truly present and view our unsettling situation with Intelligence and Love.
This is the art of having a broken heart. We have seen our heroes in life navigate with equanimity. Equanimity is being calm and even-tempered when under stress. The commercials on TV show someone not sweating when in a trying time. We can have composure and an evenness of mind when the going gets tough. I was an amateur boxer and not exactly the best which is why I am not a former professional. When you are in the midst of a battle one on one, you must not be emotional, rather being relaxed and patient and aware of your opponents rhythm and movements is so important if we are to navigate with success. We have seen those professionals in any sport remain calm and collected when in crisis. In basketball or golf a sport that involves very sensitive touch, the slightest tightness will alter your shot. This is like the art of being brokenhearted. There is a confidence we must have in the heated situation. There is a reaction that is calculated and practiced. It is even fun and builds your skill when you are challenged in such a way. I cannot say that I find fun yet when in the fire, but with practice we can view the situation for what it should be … a passing difficulty or sadness that can produce dramatic results of accomplishment and success when handled correctly. We can deal with anything with our daily practice and having the knowledge that a greater force has our back. We can know that if we are on the tightrope, there is a net to catch us if we fall and when we are so good at the task, we can even remove the net and complete that dangerous opportunity for growth with success.
When we are in the middle of a problematic situation, we cannot see clearly. We have distortion just like the scuffle in the dirt. When that dirt is kicked up, we cannot see very well what is going on and who is on top or not. We have to wait until the dust settles and then we can see the situation exactly as it is. We can then act in a calculated way and draw from all of our skills and tools to address the pain and sadness calmly with intelligence and address it thoroughly. We can have the confidence that we will always land on our feet if we approach it with Love. Love triumphs over fear.
The ego or small self will react out of separation and fear. I have never had a positive outcome from reacting that way. It is a natural response and possibly the first way we will react. However, we can have a buffer from being in it emotionally, observe like an outside viewer and develop a plan to overcome the painful experience with our strength and for our essential happiness.
Have you encountered situations or emotional pain recently that you have been able to do this? We know that we are always dealing with opportunities to grow via the difficult and unrequested situations that come our way and may bring heartbreak. They seem to come up everyday to some extent. Sometimes we try to avoid them or ignore them or push them off. We have a gift from these with the growth we will undergo, although it isn’t easy to see it that way when you are in it. Try not reacting when those times come. Say to yourself … this too will pass. The ball bounces. It is up one second and down the next. That is our life. It is a roller-coaster. We can be terrified to get on or we can pay to take a ride and scream and yell and raise our hands and feel the g-force. We can then get off and laugh and talk about it with those that were on it with us and probably, we will look forward to the next time we will have to take a ride. This is my dream when I encounter the heartbreak of life. It can be artful.
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